10 Reasons to Meet Mom Before Making a Commitment

At some point in a relationship that’s developing toward a long-term commitment, there’s the ‘meet my family’ phase. It can be a nerve-wracking experience, a potential deal-breaker, or a wonderfully pleasant window into your love interest’s heritage. Whatever the outcome might be, there are 10 good reasons why you should meet their mother before making that commitment.

  1. A mother’s approval of a relationship can be like gaining an invincible ally in your quest to fully win this tug of love. There can be no underestimating the importance of a mother’s seal of approval – or disapproval.
  2. For a man, meeting your woman’s mother can tell you a lot about her. Physical characteristics, for instance. What will she look like in 20 or 30 years?
  3. For a woman, you can learn some interesting things about your man – and there is no one more willing to tell them than his Mom.
  4. Aspects of each other’s heritage – some that may not have even occurred to either of you – can sometimes be more readily apparent in the attitudes, mannerisms and lifestyles of their parents. If the saying, “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” is to be believed, then to meet Mom is to sit beneath the tree.
  5. Mothers have a way of filling in some of the blanks in one’s past. What your partner may not recall – or chooses not to recall – can be laid bare in conversations with dear old Mother.
  6. It’s always best to get a sneak preview of what your in-laws are going to be like, and how you’ll get along. You’d rather know ahead of time than after you’re fully invested  in your relationship that you don’t quite hit it off.
  7. If children are in your future plans, you’ll also be meeting their grandmother. How suited to that role she seems to you is of the utmost interest. Your kids are apt to spend a lot of time with her.
  8. Mothers, as the matriarchs of the family, can grease the wheels, so to speak, in making connections with the rest of your partner’s family.
  9. Meeting her mother can give you insight as to how she’s apt be as a mother, a wife, and a home-maker.
  10. Meeting his mother can provide you a deeper look into his attitudes toward the opposite sex, how important his relationship is with his mother, his level of independence.

There’s no set time in a relationship when you should take your partner to meet the family. You’ll need to feel it out as you go, but it’s best to do so as soon as possible after you’re thinking commitment.

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