10 Clues From Your Date’s Body Language

One of the problems with most online communication is the fact that you can’t see the other person, often times, not even hearing their voice. You don’t realize how many subliminal clues that we receive when we can watch a person’s body language and hear their voice. Some individuals are very intuitive in regard to body language. A truly good salesman knows how to read the clues and adjust their tactics accordingly.

If you learn to read the clues from your date’s body language, it can help you immensely in some of those awkward moments where you’re not sure what needs to happen next or what they’re thinking.

Bored – Are they staring around the room or over your shoulder, looking at you only occasionally? Are they drumming their fingers, tapping their foot or doing something else repetitive? These can be signs of boredom. Yawning can also be a sign of boredom, but it can also be a legitimate sign of being tired or a response to seeing someone else yawn, so don’t be too quick to label that one as boredom without other symptoms to go with it.
Relaxed – The face and voice are usually key indicators of whether or not a person feels relaxed. The brow line should be smooth, not furrowed, and the jaw muscles should be relaxed, not tight, allowing for easy smiles. The speech will sound calm and unhurried.
Deceptive – Forced smiles, where their mouth is smiling but their eyes don’t project the same message. Holding arms close to the body or putting them in their pockets, is generally a sign of anxiety. Fear of being found out, can cause many signs of anxiety, that are totally unconscious, such as nervous twitches, biting the inside of the mouth, rubbing your chin or the back of your head.
Dominant – Standing straight, feet apart, hands on hips and the chin tilted slightly upwards is a typical dominant stance. It is one that communicates a sense of superiority or authority. Dominant personalities will also have a tendency to interrupt others while they are speaking.
Evaluating – When a person is taking in information, in order to form an opinion or make a decision, the level of their attentiveness usually shows in their body language. They may have their chin resting in one or two hands. They will often bring their two hands together in some way, such as, having the fingers of the two hands straight but linked and pointed upwards or forwards.
Anger – Clenched fists and/or teeth, red flushed neck and/or face: These are all physical signs of anger. A persons eyes will usually narrow and their breathing will become deeper as their anger rises.
Submissive – Hunched shoulders with the chin down and eyes averted is a typical demonstration of the submissive or easily intimidated person. Their movements are usually small and jerky, demonstrating their tension. They may demonstrate signs of anxiety, such as biting their lip or tugging at their hair.
Defensive – If your date always seems to want a physical object in between you, from something as large as a table to something as small as a pen or sheet of paper, this can be a defensive posture for some people. Other people will show their defensiveness through rigidity, hardly moving at all, or huddling in a corner.
Attentive – They’re leaning forward, carefully listening, ignoring the distractions around them. If this is your date, then they are truly fascinated with what you have to say. They will keep their eyes fixed on you, perhaps nodding in agreement or paraphrasing what you have to say.
Romantic – Eye contact that holds for a moment, looks away and then looks back again, is body language that can be seen from across the room. Moving closer to you, a gentle brush against your skin or hand holding that lingers communicate a desire to be physically close.

Often times we betray what we are truly feeling by our body language. Recognizing signs of anxiety or boredom can provide us with the cue that it is time to change the conversation or the activities you are currently involved in.